I still remember the first moment when I realized I couldn’t do this alone.

I had convinced myself for so long that I could do it—that the “next time” would be the last time. Or that with each new year, I’d take advantage of the clean slate to finally sustain my sobriety. On the outside, people saw me as successful—someone who had it all together. But on the inside, I felt completely broken and frustrated. My struggle with pornography made me feel unworthy and incompetent; it muted and dampened the joy I felt in every other area of my life as I fixated on this hidden desire to be free from unwanted sexual behavior.

A big part of me hated the secrecy and the lies. Another part felt hopeless. Even though I was ashamed and embarrassed, I was desperate to be honest and open—to reach out and try something different. I knew that this old way of relying on willpower and beating myself up was only making things worse.

Though I felt like I’d already tried everything, I decided to try a different approach:

I joined a group. I got support from a therapist. I opened up to trusted people in my life. I started focusing less on the number of days I could stay clean and more on my daily recovery work. I began to study my story at a deeper level, to understand the real roots of my addiction. Slowly, I started to cultivate a deeper purpose and desire to live a life that felt whole and meaningful.

Over the next six years, I began to feel real healing take place. Through my story, I learned the truth that addiction thrives in isolation—and far too many of us spend years struggling all alone. That’s what led me to create Relay, a group-based program designed to help people overcome pornography with the kind of shame-free support and community I wish I’d had.

Relay was born out of my own private struggle. It’s become everything I wish I had when I was trying to do this alone—when I felt like there was no one who truly understood what I was going through. If you’re feeling stuck, ashamed, or exhausted from carrying this burden by yourself, I want you to know that you don’t have to.

What I found, and what I hope Relay can offer you, is the support and connection I was so desperate for. It’s not about quick fixes or surface-level solutions—it’s about finding a community where you’re seen, where you can be honest, and where you can finally stop battling in isolation. You don’t have to keep going through this alone.

This isn’t just about quitting unhealthy behavior; this is about reclaiming control and confidence. It’s about restoring you to your true self.

You can do this, and we’re here with you every step of the way.

Sincerely,

Chandler Rogers